Blogger Amelia got more than she bargained for when she shared a story about her observations of her 6-year-old son. Her son, after watching the TV show Glee, exclaimed that he wanted to kiss boys and not girls. This admission on both her son's part and the blogger's brought an extreme amount of traffic to her blog and a subsequent fall-out article.

Last week, gay advocacy groups pressured the Android App "Is My Son Gay?" by French app-makers Emmene Moi to be pulled from the Android market as it was deemed stereotypical and damaging in its stereotypes. The makers of the app insisted it was meant as a joke.

What do both stories have in common? Straight-parent hysteria that their children might be gay and the gay community wanting issues of gays children not to be taken lightly — we have only to look at the rise of gay teen suicide to see just how important it is to take all this seriously. What every parent should be expressing is a sigh of 'what does it matter?'

It is an uncomfortable topic, to be sure, but not because of the gayness of it. We Americans really don't like to discuss any sort of sexuality with our children — which some would say is probably the No. 1 reason why we are the one industrialized nation with a teen pregnancy problem. It's uncomfortable because it shows our true feelings — and some of those true feelings are a little homophobic.

Blogger commenters everywhere have weighed in on the issue by exclaiming that mothers such as Amelia are horrid because they are 'seeing their son as gay' and are 'encouraging gayness.' About the only thing I could find fault with is her letting her 6-year-old watch a non 6-year-old show. But gay children will be gay children whether we like it or not.

We push heterosexuality on our children every day. We ask teenagers who they are dating. We encourage boys to do 'boy things' and girls to do 'girl things,' and by doing so we are encouraging the status quo. We, in a sense, push our heterosexuality down their little throats whether we see it as that or not. How stressful it must be to live in family that's pushing a norm that doesn't fit their children. I think of my own kids. My eight year old son has had a hard core crush on his female babysitter for the last four years. Admittedly, she's gorgeous. He also loves green eyeshadow and David Bowie in the '70s. What does that make him other than cool?

Not a single gay friend or family member of mine remembers a time before they were gay or lesbian. They always had that feeling — even when they were under 18. The mother of one of my best friends told us she knew when he was five. He's 45 now and the gayest man I know. When did he tell his parents? When he was 16. I sincerely hope that all gay children out there are in loving homes with parents that will accept them the way they are and not try and push their societal or religious expectations upon them. That is, of course, where the damage comes from.

One of the best things to come out of the last year of discussion of gay children and gay teen suicide has been the It Gets Better Project. Gay children — especially those being bullied at school, in their own home, or both — need to know that there can be a great life ahead for them.

Whether we admit to it or not, children are sexual beings. They don't wake up on their 18th birthdays with sudden libidos, gay or otherwise.