Along with the amazing and convenient advantages of technology comes the inappropriate use of electronic gadgets in every library, bookstore, work office, and classroom across the country. Things have gotten out of hand, and adults—parents—are partially to blame.

There seems to be a general lack of decency when it comes to cell phone calls and text messages. These days, people think nothing of having a conversation during a movie, taking a call during lunch date, or texting one friend while in conversation with another. The way to stop the rude behavior is to lay down the rules for your own children—and model them yourself.

1. Teach young people to use common sense. Making a short phone call from the aisles of a large grocery store is altogether different than yakking with a friend while browsing in a book store. The noise level expectation is far different in these two settings.

2. Model for your tween and teen courteous behavior. This means stepping outside of public places to take a telephone call: libraries, coffee shops, restaurants. And yes, movie theaters.

3. Students shouldn’t be allowed to have cell phones, iPhones, or Blackberries in the classroom. If your child has one taken away by a teacher or administrator, support the school’s rule.

4. Don’t allow texting or talking on the phone during family meal times.

5. Teach children that texting is for casual, friendly conversation only. It isn’t appropriate to gossip, share bad news, or message about things private and personal to the family.

6. It is not a child’s right to use a cell phone; it is a privilege. If rules are being broken regarding its use, take the phone away — and for longer than just a few days.

7. Set aside one day each week when children are not allowed to use any electronic devices. This practice is good proof that they can live without them.

Lizzie Post, the great-great granddaughter of etiquette queen and columnist, Elizabeth Post, lists rules for answering (and not answering) your cell phone in public and social situations. She encourages simple courtesy and common sense, and lists several tips for how to handle necessary phone conversations in a variety of situations. For example, doing one’s best to step away from an area where others are gathered in order to take a necessary phone call.

A group of students from Oceanside High School in Oceanside, N.Y., won the 2010 Chase Multimedia in the Classroom award with their video on technology etiquette. It was made by young people, for young people, and contains humorous and real-life situations that come about from inappropriately using—or reacting to—technology.

Perhaps the best way for young people to get the message is to get it from their peers.

You can also check out Teach Your Child Cell Phone Etiquette, and Teaching Kids Cell Phone Etiquette for more good rules and information on how to deal with technology and manners.