When you have a child with special needs, it is easy to be caught up in all of the "cannots" that surround her. There are doctors and therapists focusing on fixing your child to the point where you see your child as broken instead of as the unique individual that she is. It is vital that you let go of the "cannots" and celebrate all of the milestones your child does meet and all of the activities she can participate in.

Get Rid of the Labels

Children with special needs are often labeled with all sorts of letters. Whether it's ASD or ADHD or both, your child won't benefit from being constantly described by these labels instead of who she is as a person. Try to cut back on your use of labels, especially in front of your child. As your child ages, she will learn on her own that she is different from her peers. Talk to her about it as she asks you questions about it.

Let Your Child Grow

Oftentimes, as parents, we forget that our children are able to do so much more than we give them credit for. As with any child, there's a transition period between not being able to complete a task and mastering that task. Your child will be frustrated and you will be anxious to help her. Try to step back and give your child the opportunity to do things for herself within the realms of her abilities.

Keep Track of Accomplishments

Perhaps your child is struggling to hold her fork and is months or even years behind her peers on being able to feed herself. When she finally does do it on her own, take a picture. You can put it in a special book of accomplishments for her to be able to look back on and remember.

Keep in Close Contact with Teachers

Communicate with your child's teachers and therapists frequently. Discuss how your child is progressing. Sometimes, a child may reach a milestone while at school, yet it isn't communicated to the parents in a timely manner. If your child is finally able to write her name while at school and you are unaware of it, you won't be able to both celebrate this accomplishment and help her develop it further at home.

Brag About Her Qualities

Maybe your child is struggling in school or having trouble making friends. You don't have to focus on these "setbacks" when talking about your child. Tell your friends and family how funny or sweet she is. Talk about her latest accomplishments.

No child is the same, but not even one will benefit from feeling as if she isn't ever good enough. When your child reaches a milestone, pause and enjoy it before your begin focusing on the next. Your child will feel good about herself and will be eager to gain even more skills and independence.

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