Every parent wants what is best for their children, especially when it comes to their health. Whether it's giving them a wholesome diet, keeping them warm when it's cold, building their self-esteem, or simply making them happy, parents are continually striving to find ways to ensure that their children are properly cared for both physically and emotionally.

Parents, however, are not perfect, even if our kids sometimes think we are (interestingly, my kids don't seem to fall into this category). While no mother or father would intentionally hurt their kids, sometimes our words or actions can do just that. Even with the best of intentions, sometimes we can actually do more harm than good.

Here are 10 situations where this might occur.

1. Comparing Them to Others

Kids should be given unconditional love, but when they sense they are being scrutinized in light of others, it can lead to inferiority complexes and self-esteem issues. Kids internalize these comparisons that can in turn can lead to eating disorders and emotional problems.

2. Obsessing Over Appearances

Every parent thinks their child is beautiful, but constantly focusing on how they look can establish unhealthy standards that might encourage kids to employ unhealthy eating and lifestyle choices in order to maintain appearances.

3. Doing Everything for Them

You may think you're doing them a favor, but kids who have everything done for them do not develop the independence and resilience needed to become well-adjusted adults. Trying things on their own (and even failing at them) also teaches them important life lessons.

4. Giving In

It is important to set a rule or agenda and stand by it, because inconsistency can send the wrong message to kids, who often learn to manipulate these situations. It may not make them happy, but being a parent takes priority over being a friend.

5. Constantly Praising Them

Kids who are always praised begin to expect it, and this can become the driving force for their actions. Everyone likes to be praised, but motivation should come from within. Constant praise also poorly prepares kids for the real world where their peers might not be as supportive.

6. Being Overly Critical

On the flip-side of #4 is being critical of what kids are doing. Constantly berating or belittling their actions can do irreparable harm to their self-esteem, which can adversely affect their confidence as they move toward independence.

7. Letting Them Eat Whatever They Want

A proper diet is an important part of healthy living and can have important ramifications on socialization and self-esteem. In our busy world, it is hard to monitor everything our kids eat, but when we have the chance we should make sure their diets are wholesome.

8. Focusing Too Much On the End-Result

Life should be a process where important lessons are learned. When too much emphasis is put on the end-result, these benefits are lost. For example, focusing only on grades (end-result) in school might encourage cheating over learning (process).

9. Using TV as a Model for Real Life

TV is not reality, and the more we let it shape our values, the more it will lead to disappointment, especially for our kids. Characters on TV maintain unrealistic appearances and lifestyles that should not be used as a basis for own expectations.

10. Ignoring Them So You Can Use Your Phone

Technology is a important part of our culture, but it is easy to become obsessed with it. When this obsession comes at the expense of our time and attention, it can be problematic because children can act out in unhealthy ways if they sense that they are constantly being ignored. Plus, it's rude and teaches bad manners.